I try to control it but it’s so hard…
Jealousy
noun, plural jealousies for 4.
1.
jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself.
2.
mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.
3.
vigilance in maintaining or guarding something.
It’s all in the mind..its about control…how long you can control is another story. Jealousy is an ugly trait and I know for one I have it. Simple, I think we all do at some point or another.
Why am I jealous is probably your next question as I sit here rambling on about the word…My trigger is simple, an ex wife.
She messaged me earlier saying she went ahead and grabbed my bracelet my initial thought was..how did she see it unless she was in our room..I never discussed it with him till tonight when he asked me was I sure I was actually babysitting tonight..? I told him for someone so doubtful I think i have more to worry about knowing his ex wife was in his bed room while he laid in bed.
“She was just in there to tell me the kids were there I was asleep and she was early” he argued.
“Right thats a lie and you know good and well she was in there longer than that” i said knowingly thinking back to the text.
“She sat across my bed in the red chair and talked to me for a minute babe it was nothing..”
Nothing? Why does he think thats ok for his ex wife to sit in our room while he sleeps naked in the f***ing bed? Am I being too jealous? Probably, thats why I am blogging. I didn’t want to keep fighting and I thought maybe seeing this written would make me see its not as big of a deal to let it go…
Ok, phew, I needed that now I am going to try this again with him only this time I will be more calm and try something along these lines “I don’t feel comfortable with your ex wife in our room especially without me present. You should of told her leave the room I will be right out, and never let that situation happen..” Here goes nothing.
His reply: “Well i think your being crazy and that i did nothing wrong at all i had shorts on i knew she was dropping the kids off so i always wear them in case and she came in and talked to me there isn’t anything wrong with that good lord”
Well, I tried. Now its a fight.
THANKS ALOT JEALOUSY…
Was I even the one in the wrong..i freaking tried here.
-Blankk
blankkanonymous 
I think jealousy is something we all have had at some point in our lives. I know I have. And being jealous, I don’t think is a bad thing. We just need to learn how to control it because it can be ugly if we let it. I have learned the hard way and nearly lost a wonderful man as a friend in my life. I had rather give up than loose him as a friend if that makes sense. There will always be other woman and I find myself getting tired. Smiles
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No, you aren’t wrong at all. Your partner should be understanding and caring about things that are important to you and vise versa. Even if it doesn’t seem like a big deal to him, it all comes down to respect. Things like this can definitely kill a relationship over time.
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There’s a difference between reckless jealousy and being justified in your suspicions. If that was me I would do the same thing if I didn’t trust that other woman; call me jealous. I don’t have a problem with exes, but I can sniff out shady people.
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I am not sure what to say, however if the tables were flipped and You had an intimate ex in the bed room with you while you were in your skivvies, in bed… I’m not sure he’d be so calm. I don’t know him though and that’s just my opinion.
I hope you can come to some level ground.
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Jealousy to a certain extent is not bad. It’s consider healthy when in moderation and can show each parent that one cares. BUT when your jealousy becomes a habit or a way of thinking, you will only be attracting what you don’t want! If you trust your parent, no situation will test you. If you don’t however, the problems will get bigger & bigger!! Be positive and stay strong! You’re meant to be happy!
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Partner* no parent haha.
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There is a certain thing called woman’s intuition. If something usually doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.
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If I were you I would investigate this…Woman intuition is almost never wrong. This is why being with a divorced person is a terrible idea because at the end of the day you will always feel like you don’t belong You will always have the feeling that they had something you probably will never have. A lot of divorced couples end up back together because they realize they have more reason to be together then not being together. I am not telling you to leave you guy but being careful in this situation would not be a bad advice…it would be the right thing to do. I would do this with a clam mind not with anger because anger always clouds judgment.
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